Cody's Dating Service
Staying curious about the wind
Dear reader,
Last night I’m spitballing with some friends about my lack of dating options in the rural North. Where is my wife? Doesn’t she know there are five acres here for her to tend to her flower farm? What song will they dedicate to me on Delilah? How do you say - Look at the life I have that we could weave together, without the destination of a pair bond as the goal?
I’m texting my ex girlfriend who suggests I come to visit upstate NY to find this person. Others suggest I try the apps, which I cannot do. The apps in Northern Michigan are scary but another friend tells the rare tale of meeting their now love on Tinder in these parts. Every gender holds a fish. I am not opposed to learning how to fish and I love to be on a boat in the water but the posing with the fish doesn’t quite send me in the way I imagined.
I try to stay curious about a casual lover but it remains friendly. I try to stay curious about the boy whose car I left a note on once at the trail head but never head from. I try to stay curious about the wind that whips on the hill.
I make a google form : Cody’s Dating Service. It’s a questionnaire for potential love. Name, age, pronouns. What will we do on our first date? I send it to my friends who are either in complete shock I would be open to sending this out to the masses or who encourage me to immediately share it far and wide.
I consider hyperlinking the google form here, mixing work and love in a chaotic and perhaps unthoughtful way. Nic helps me veto this, queen of work boundaries. We talk through other places for the google form to live. I could email it to my closest friends to pass along to their own single prospects, make a flyer to post on the bulletin board at the coffee shop, consider it as one part of the sorcery.
I cast a love spell. It sits on my fireplace altar with a pink candle, vessel for cinnamon, a June Jordan poem, a photo of myself, and my objects of ceremony.
I am going to more events, ready to find my next lover in the parking lot of the food co op. Or the art opening. Or in a field somewhere.
I do not feel desperate or lost for love. I feel clear. I feel complete. I had my last partner send me a photo of themselves with their new partner. I thought I would feel sad. I just felt free. I said, ok I want to be free now. I want my imagination of what partnership could be to expand beyond the realm of what I have known.
In freedom is where I have found love before.
- is teaching a VERY COOL series of classes that starts this Saturday : History and Origins of Trauma-Informed Tattooing, Practical Skills and Applications, and Values Alignment and Resisting Cooptation.
This workshop isn’t just for tattoo artists and I highly recommend for anyone in an industry of body to body care, relational work, seeing clients of any kind!
This Saturday September 14 at 12pm EST
is the guest writing teacher at Landscapes! I’d love for you to join usReally into this song
I miss quilting. Do you want to take A Quilt in a Weekend in November?
Common Threads Press has a new title to pre order : Stitching the Intifada: Embroidery and Resistance in Palestine
Dead Head: On Grave Gardening by Cynthia Ann Schemmer for The Syllabus Project is such a beautiful read on where to channel grief
SAVE THE DATE : October 12 is the opening of Wander Home by
at Cedar North plus an in person quilting workshop on October 13 - not to be missed!Echoes of Self was a total blast yesterday! The recording is available now for purchase and you can join us this Wednesday and Friday for co-working.
I got the most beautiful and relaxing holistic facial at Little Beauty Kitchen in Northport and have started using Kelly’s products on my face and it feels amazing to switch to non lab skincare products!
Gel X nail art is really on my mind today!
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Landscapes : A writing group for all genres
Ok, slow claps over here for the mention of Delilah (who is a legit compass from childhood who has deeply informed my own work in this world) and also for this Lyndsey Buckingham song. (Have you seen the episode of Northern Exposure that features this song? If not, high recommendation over here from a person who doesn't watch shows much).
Lastly, I love this sharing. I love imagining a special person, with ripe timing, arriving in your life and being dumbfounded at the beauty you've been tending and are wishing to share. And holy wow, we truly need so many more transparent sharings about "unconventional" relating options, room to meet in deep commitments, devotions and loving explorations when we're not necessarily looking to pair bond or follow well-worn roads. I hold such deep learnings in my own life about this, and really appreciate when others voice their experiences, questions, longings, possibilities and wisdoms...
"I want my imagination of what partnership could be to expand beyond the realm of what I have known." Throwing my own adoration & intention & magic behind your love spell 🖤