One thing I have noticed in myself with sharing my writing is that, in the beginning I stayed with pieces for so long that I would get cold feet about sharing them. Then, I got braver, and I started to rush through the original idea to get to the pleasure of "doneness" rather than staying with a piece or an idea long enough to let it bloom open. Like chasing the dopamine of completion- and then I'd wallow for days because I didn't quite say it the way it deserved to be said (writing can feel so painful!) I think there's a real joy and sincerity that comes through the meandering too, though. It is its own kind of style. I'm trying to take more time with my writing projects, or at least with my longer form writing projects, to chew on them and decide if the choppiness is what it is meant to be, or if it deserves to be nurtured into something else. Thanks for reminding us to luxuriate in the edits.
yes yes I really feel you in trying to find that in between. how to not hit send too quickly but also not wait long enough to...hit send ;) a forever dance
This rings so true, Berlin. I too experience that tension between wanting to get the dopamine hit of hitting publish...then find myself tangled in knots trying to fall asleep that night wishing I'd said something more precisely or completely, was softer and kinder, etc. This is absolutely intertwined with my addiction to external validation.
Yep I am right there with you! on the nighttime tangles and the need for external validation. There can be a real grief that comes when we write about something important and it doesn’t turn out as we envisioned.
Yes! I have the same thing on a lesser scale with comments...but, at the same time, am trying to overcome an addiction to perfectionism. How to find this elusive "balance"...
'embracing it as a form of trust rather than fighting to try to find the answers' this entire piece strikes all kinds of chords, especially as I'm creating an offering and putting it out into the world ✨️ editing and iterating as a form of trust
I’m editing my newest book right now (deadline for Part 2 on January 5) and... it’s such a slog. I feel so stuck. But I am trusting that I’ll find my way back to the book, to the electricity of it.
"people will hate what you make and say and do but no matter what we keep writing, we keep making art."...such an essential piece of advice for all creators! Thank you for sharing!
"I meander. I am a meanderer" Me too. I love you 🤍
Bless the meanderers
yes indeed
Clunky optimism :)
One thing I have noticed in myself with sharing my writing is that, in the beginning I stayed with pieces for so long that I would get cold feet about sharing them. Then, I got braver, and I started to rush through the original idea to get to the pleasure of "doneness" rather than staying with a piece or an idea long enough to let it bloom open. Like chasing the dopamine of completion- and then I'd wallow for days because I didn't quite say it the way it deserved to be said (writing can feel so painful!) I think there's a real joy and sincerity that comes through the meandering too, though. It is its own kind of style. I'm trying to take more time with my writing projects, or at least with my longer form writing projects, to chew on them and decide if the choppiness is what it is meant to be, or if it deserves to be nurtured into something else. Thanks for reminding us to luxuriate in the edits.
yes yes I really feel you in trying to find that in between. how to not hit send too quickly but also not wait long enough to...hit send ;) a forever dance
This resonates!
This rings so true, Berlin. I too experience that tension between wanting to get the dopamine hit of hitting publish...then find myself tangled in knots trying to fall asleep that night wishing I'd said something more precisely or completely, was softer and kinder, etc. This is absolutely intertwined with my addiction to external validation.
Yep I am right there with you! on the nighttime tangles and the need for external validation. There can be a real grief that comes when we write about something important and it doesn’t turn out as we envisioned.
Yes! I have the same thing on a lesser scale with comments...but, at the same time, am trying to overcome an addiction to perfectionism. How to find this elusive "balance"...
Thank you for this, Mar. It will be my prayer this next while, as I practice shifting my own relationship to editing and revising.
we got this :)
'embracing it as a form of trust rather than fighting to try to find the answers' this entire piece strikes all kinds of chords, especially as I'm creating an offering and putting it out into the world ✨️ editing and iterating as a form of trust
yes yes as a form of trust!
I love this glimpse into your home.
I’m editing my newest book right now (deadline for Part 2 on January 5) and... it’s such a slog. I feel so stuck. But I am trusting that I’ll find my way back to the book, to the electricity of it.
with you in the slog <3
"people will hate what you make and say and do but no matter what we keep writing, we keep making art."...such an essential piece of advice for all creators! Thank you for sharing!