Deciding about grad school, seeing past loves, and the resistance to people pleasing
Yes Yes Advice Column
Welcome to Yes Yes, my monthly advice column here for its triumphant return. Pop your questions in for next month. I am writing to you from my house in the North on a cool September morning. I feel grateful for the ways the seasons change and grateful for the ways I change and the ways I stay the same.
The past few weeks I have been orienting towards the big possibility of going to grad school, specifically to get my MFA in Interdisciplinary Arts at Goddard College in Vermont. Their low residency format, vibe, and faculty have pulled me in and I am longing for more mentorship, peers, and rigor in academic study.
I thought I wasn’t book smart enough for my Quilt Studies program, which I dropped out of, but really it was that the history and instruction style wasn’t grabbing me. I asked a lot of friends advice but what I really did was looked within for the answers. It shaped me in seeing that what I want is deeper study and a full masters degree. I write more about this in today’s column.
I look forward to the possibilities grad school may provide as I continue to teach Quilt Class, vision and build out the five acres I steward, and dream up new visions for my writing, dancing, and art practices.
The audio version of Yes Yes can be found at the bottom of this post
In today’s advice column I cover :
🧊 DECIDING TO ATTEND AND PAY FOR GRAD SCHOOL WITH NO GENERATIONAL WEALTH
🍯 RECOVERING FROM PEOPLE PLEASING
🐬 HOW TO STAY SANE WHEN UR EX FALLS IN LOVE AGAIN
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I am not a therapist and I have no training in advice giving. I am an artist, a writer, and a teacher of creative practice with a devotion to how we live. These are my opinions, my best shot at hope, and what I know from 35 years on the planet. As always, may you hold a gentle spirit while reading, take what you like, and leave the rest. Let’s dive in!
Dear Mar - Do you have any advice on removing the fear, attachment, and jealousy of potentially seeing or hearing about an ex (who you were with for a very long time and was your first love) being with and loving someone else? I know you recently wrote a post about attending your ex partner's wedding and want to understand how you got to a place where you understand and accept that love travels to other people and doesn't diminish the love that was once shared between you and an ex.